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<h1 class="entry-title" style="text-align: center;">Women: Career or Romance, Choose Your God</h1> <img src="https://web.archive.org/web/20150519005649im_/http://splitsburgh.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/stressed-mother-in-kitchen.jpeg" alt="" width="800" /> There's a lot of money to be made in telling women what they want to hear. It's no wonder they're neck deep in the quicksand of delusion. When the house of cards falls, it's devastating. For every article about female empowerment in the workplace, there is another personal account of a woman past her prime, unable to find love. Can a woman have both a prestigious career and the perfect domestic life? The scathing reality — woman can't have it all. Life is too short for both. The <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2022/05/16/dating-apps-reframing-how-and-why-you-use-them/">dating and job market</a> are both fiercely competitive. To do well in one, compromises need to be made in the other. <h2>Feminist Vision Of Success</h2> Feminist, Hanna Rosin thinks young women should experience "sexual freedom," while focusing on overtaking men in the workplace. In her Wall Street Journal piece entitled "<a href="https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304724404577299391480959420">Sexual Freedom and Women's Success</a>," Rosin rambles on about the merits of women staying unattached during their sexual prime: It's true that the new wave of girl sitcoms and single-girl memoirs these days are full of complaints about boys who won't commit. But you have to take these complaints with a grain of salt. These days the problem in the dating market is caused not by women's eternal frailty but by their new dominance. In a world where women in their 20s are, on average, more successful than men, dating becomes complicated. Women no longer need men for financial security and social influence. They can achieve those things by themselves. No one is in a hurry to get married, and sex is, by the terms of sexual economics, very cheap. When sex is cheap, more men turn into what the sociologist Mark Regnerus calls "free agents." They sleep with as many women as possible basically, because they can. It's not all unicorns and rainbows for career women in their 20s and early 30s: The result is that the women suffer through a lot of frustrating little dating battles. But this is only a small part of the picture. Women these days understand that their sexual freedom — even if it causes them some amount of heartache — is necessary for their future success. Rosin doesn't care about the happiness of the individual so much as she wants more women in the corporate and political power structure. Perhaps she's being too transparent. If women start waking up to the fact her agenda is actually about supporting the cause and rather than personal fulfillment, the smart ones will jump ship. And if the sexual revolution has left women so miserable, then how to explain the decline in teenage sexuality? Despite the warnings conveyed by reality shows such as "Teen Mom" and "Sixteen and Pregnant," teenagers today are far less likely than their parents were to have sex or get pregnant. In 2010 the percentage of teenage girls having sex was 27%, down from 37.2% in 1988, according to the latest data from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Teen pregnancy rates have dropped 44% since peaking in 1991, reaching a record low in 2010. The numbers point to a future in which women are more in control of their sexual destinies than ever before, not less. This only further legitimizes the argument that the sexual revolution has indeed made women less happy. Rosin dodges the issue completely. Teen pregnancy has absolutely nothing to do with the happiness of the career women she was talking about. She tries to patch it up by tossing in a remark about women being more in control of their "sexual destinies." Mark Richardson at <a href="http://ozconservative.blogspot.com/2012/03/what-do-feminists-want-for-women.html">Oz Conservative</a> sums it up nicely: It is important that women understand this clearly. Hanna Rosin is not offering a "you can have it all" scenario to women. She is being honest about what feminists value. She does not care if women do not experience love and motherhood when they are in their sexual prime. Family formation is to be delayed to the last moment, when women have passed their sexual prime, in favour of careers, as careers are thought to offer power (over men) and autonomy (from men). Hanna Rosin is dismissive of the idea that a woman might prioritise the goals of marriage and motherhood; she writes that women have "a lot more important things on their horizon" Women in their early 20s are most desired by men. If a woman wants the best partner possible, this is the time for her to cash in her chips. There are heavy costs associated with enjoying "sexual freedom" during a woman's sexual prime. If she waits until her <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/08/17/top-dating-tips-for-women-in-their-30s-or-40s/">30s or 40s</a> to settle down, the quality of the men she'll attract will be from a lower tier. Will men who have been encouraged to be players in their 20s, and who have gained confidence in approaching the women of their choice, really be willing to settle down with older women? Won't they tend to favour younger, more fertile women? Of course a commitment-seeking older woman can't compete. Not only are younger women more attractive, but they are also doling out no-strings-attached sex, just as she did years prior. The Daily Mail recently published an eye-opening article about the true market value of <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/04/27/im-over-40-single-childless-and-completely-ok/">older ladies</a>: "The Plankton Generation -- that's women who are barely visible and at the bottom of the food chain for romance -- just because they're over 45." Alex Wise from the <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/">Loveawake</a> dating site had this to say: "I always had boyfriends when I was younger and assumed I would again after James was born," she says. "When he was three, I started chatting online. These chats were fun — and sometimes quite flirty — but if I ever suggested we meet, the men would often back off, saying they were not looking for a relationship." A dozen or so dates followed over the years, none of them quite right. When she last registered with an online dating site she was 44 — and few men made contact. "Forty is a huge cut-off point for a lot of men," Ruthie explains. "There was just one I met and we had a fantastic evening. I was surprised afterwards when he didn't get in touch." There are plenty of single men in Ruthie's age group. The unspoken problem appears to be that she won't settle for anything less than a high-status male. Here's proof: The imbalance, it seems, is because middle-aged men are looking for partners who are far younger than them. "A man can pick from a wider pool of women — his age and under, by several decades," The Plankton writes. "I have a friend in her late 30s who lives with, and has children by, a man in his mid-60s. He is paunchy with grey chest hair and not especially rich. He plucked her from a surfeit of willing women, watching him like vultures before my friend 'got' him." Only exceptionally desirable men can pull women "several decades younger." The paunchy man in his mid-60s she speaks of clearly has something going for himself if he was fought over by a swarm of women and is cohabitating with a woman more than twenty years younger. Mediocre guys aren't so lucky. <h2>Here's the wrap-up.</h2> Young women will take one of two paths: <ul> <li>March to the feminist anthem, excel at the workplace, and sabotage their marriage prospects.</li> <li>Put their career on the back burner, settle down early, and potentially have a great family life.</li> </ul> As Geddy Lee of Rush warned: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice." Women can't afford to wait a moment longer. It's time for them to choose their god.